Zac Affleck Apologizes to Jen Days After She Filed for Divorce

Zac Affleck is owning up to his mistakes.

Just days after Jen Affleck filed for divorce, her husband shared an emotional public apology on TikTok on Friday, Nov. 6.

"I married my dream girl, and I messed it up," Zac wrote in the caption. "Jen, I'm sorry. I was supposed to protect your heart and I failed."

Jen, a star of the reality series The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, filed for divorce in Utah on Tuesday, Nov. 3, after about seven years of marriage.

"Young and immature"

The TikTok showed clips of the couple's happier moments together, with the apology written in the caption.

Zac said he was "young and immature" and that he did not treat Jen the way she deserved. He also apologized for "dimming your light."

"I'm sorry I couldn't make the changes I needed to," he wrote. "And I'm sorry I let things get to this point."

He wrote that he "can't change the past" but promised to "keep working on myself and do everything I can to be the best father, coparent, and friend moving forward."

"Love you, lil J"

Zac ended his caption on a hopeful note, focusing on the family the two built together.

He said he wants to approach "this next chapter of life with nothing but love, and gratitude for everything we shared."

"And the beautiful family we created and will continue to raise," he added. "Love you, lil J."

Zac Affleck's TikTok apology to Jen Affleck.

The video that came before

Zac's apology came a day after Jen shared a TikTok of her own on Thursday, Nov. 5, People reports.

In the throwback clip, Jen stands in a kitchen in a bathrobe, with on-screen text joking that she was two weeks postpartum and trying to become an influencer. The video also included audio of Zac saying he hoped she was not making a TikTok "looking like that," making a crude remark about her postpartum body and telling her she should not post it.

Zac later addressed the clip in a TikTok comment. He wrote that the video was from 2022 and called his words "obviously horrible" and something that "should have never been said."

"I said a lot of horrible and hurtful things but I have tried my best to learn and grow," he added.

"I would continue the cycle"

Jen has spoken about the timing in an interview with Entertainment Tonight.

"I think I've known for a really long time," she said. She added that she worried that if she waited, she would "continue the cycle."

Jen, who is pregnant with the couple's fourth child, also said that rewatching the show made her realize she had "trained myself to forget" and "trained myself to survive."

Zac's side of the story

Before his apology, Zac had already spoken about the split.

In a TikTok on Thursday, Nov. 5, he said Jen came to him about a year ago, after Dancing with the Stars, and told him she was unhappy and wanted a divorce. "I basically begged her to stay," he said. That is his account of events.

In a statement to People the same day, he said he would "always be Jen's supporter" and was "just focusing on my kids and figuring out what's next for me."

An April TikTok

Fans had spotted a possible hint months earlier.

In an April 6 TikTok about moving, Jen said she was "very hopeful for this next chapter of my life." Fans noticed she was not wearing her wedding ring in the video.

Their love story

Jen and Zac met in 2018 on the Mormon dating app Mutual and married in June 2019.

The couple share three children: daughter Nora, 5, son Luca, 3, and daughter Penelope, 16 months. In June, they announced they were expecting their fourth child.

Their relationship has played out on The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, the Hulu reality series that follows a group of Mormon mom influencers in Utah known as "MomTok."

For viewers, the couple's ups and downs were never fully private. Moments from their marriage have been filmed, discussed and debated online.

From MomTok to the ballroom

Along with her role on the reality series, Jen competed on Dancing with the Stars in 2025, partnered with Jan Ravnik. The show brought her to a new audience beyond the MomTok world.

Zac has said Jen told him she was unhappy after her time on the show.

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A week that changed everything

Here's how the past few days unfolded:

• Tuesday, Nov. 3: Jen files for divorce in Utah after about seven years of marriage, along with a proposed parenting plan.
• Thursday, Nov. 5: Jen posts a TikTok featuring audio of Zac. The same day, Zac posts his own TikTok and tells People he will "always be Jen's supporter."
• Friday, Nov. 6: Zac shares his public apology on TikTok, writing, "I married my dream girl, and I messed it up."

In less than a week, a private family decision played out in public, with both Jen and Zac speaking directly to their followers.

What the apology says

In his caption, Zac says "I'm sorry" several times, says he failed to protect Jen's heart and says he could not make the changes he needed to. He also looks ahead, promising to focus on being the "best father, coparent, and friend."

What comes next

The divorce is still in its early stages. Jen submitted a proposed parenting plan with her filing, but its details have not been made public. The filing does not state a reason for the split, according to TMZ.

Zac has said he is focused on his kids, while Jen is still pregnant with the couple's fourth child. As of Saturday, Nov. 7, no public response from Jen to the apology had been reported.